Reclining against Jesus

So, I've been searching the scriptures to find out why John considers himself the disciple whom Jesus loved ( he writes this about himself 4 times).  The first time he uses these words are at the last supper. Peter asks " the disciple whom Jesus loved" who will betray him. Then I notice something interesting, John, who is LEANING against Jesus turns to him and asks him. This denotes an intimate relationship with Jesus that John had that no other disciple had.  Otherwise, why else would  he recline against him?

Do we have an intimate enough relationship with Jesus that we feel comfortable reclining against him?